I’M SORRY BUT THIS REALLY PISSED ME OFF AND I NEEDED TO VENT.
So I liked this page last year for the shits and gigs, as you do. I found it funny, and let slide the few sexist posts.
Only recently- and after I got a tumblr- did I really start to notice the abundance of rape, sexist and racist jokes appearing on my news feed. And it pissed me off.
I said nothing, however, because what could I do? Send in a message to the page and get labelled a whore and a slut by the Admins as I’ve seen so many people do?
Then this motherfucking gem popped up.
I usually don’t get involved in these sorts of things; if I do my comment gets lost more often than not and goes unnoticed. But I had to comment, I really had to.
I thought my argument was valid and whole, and I was actually rather happy when he admin directly replied to my comment.
I narrowed down my five favourite games ever and posted them.
Of course, I got beaten and labeled down once again.
When I asked for a rational clarification of his definitions of “casual” and “core” he did not reply. It was only when I directly insinuated the bias of his claim did I get a response.
“A feminist I see. No arguments need to be made. Good luck with getting them eggs fertilized”
Note the use of “feminist” as an insult.
I have had my fair share of gender specific hate regarding gaming. I get told I am a fake and a bitch if I get a high score; I get told to “suck a dick because you are better at that, bitch” if I get a low score; I get told to “get back in the kitchen, slut” without any prompt at all, simply because I have a vagina.
I am beyond sick of this. I hate the fact that if a male who hypothetically plays a few hours of CoD can be easily called a gamer by the wider community but I if were to say that I was a level 34 on Skyrim I would immediately be called a fake geek girl, a casual gamer and a liar.
I hate the fact that, even though 45% of gaming consumers are female, developers and publishers still believe that there is not a large enough demographic for female protagonists.
I hate the fact that most women in video games are no more than sexulised objects in skimpy clothing.
I hate the fact that I cannot enjoy a game without being labeled and branded because of the fact that I posses a vagina and not a penis.
~sorry about the long post clogging up your dash. I needed to vent~
Off-topic somewhat, but important.
and i must scream
Seriously, this woman literally said that her favorite games including GEARS OF WAR and SKYRIM and the dude can take that and immediately refute it as casual! Why? She could have said that she’s level 47 on Call of Duty: Black Ops 2 multiplayer, has played every Silent Hill game, can tell you the entire back stories of the war between assassins and templars in Assassin’s Creed, and she would still get dismissed because she’s a woman and therefore ineligible for the categorization of hardcore gamer. There are men who live to play games like Animal Crossing, Nintendogs, and Little Big Planet, and women who thrive on Bioshock, Uncharted, and Resident Evil, but the former would never be questioned as being a “true gamer,” while the latter will always have to face guys like the one in the Facebook conversation who question their gaming prowess.
It just goes to show that matter what, if you are a woman and you say that you play video games, there will always be some male douchebag heckling at you, saying that you are not a true gamer and will pull arguments out of their asses to make them feel like they have a right to bully you.
In what world did this “Badass Ed” considered the games listed as casual? Those games sure don’t seem casual to me. With such a toxic attitude like that towards female gamers, that bully can get bent and stay bent. I hope he encounters more female gamers in the future that debunk and report his ass. What nastiness.
“Those who think that it is OK to behave in a way that demeans or exploits their colleagues have no place in this army.”
“On all operations, female soldiers and officers have proven themselves worthy of the best traditions of the Australian Army. They are vital to us maintaining our capability now and into the future.
“If that does not suit you then get out. You may find another employer where your attitude and behaviour is acceptable but I doubt it.”
“No one has ever explained to me how the exploitation or degradation of others enhances capability or honours the traditions of the Australian Army.”
“The standard you walk past is the standard you accept.”
Chief of Army, Lieutenant General David Morrison
It makes me angry that I have to do this, but I’m going to do it anyway. Last week at Denver Comic Con, I went to a panel on women and body image in comics that I had very high hopes for. It was modded by the same woman who’d modded the very excellent Geek Girl panel earlier that day, and had two…
Heard about this whole incident from a friend of mine who was on this panel. She couldn’t believe what was unfolding in front of her. At the time she couldn’t remember the creators name but he’s since been identified as Andrew Mark. He’s listed as “Creator/Inker/Pencils/Colors. Director and organizer. Co-Founder.” of Legacy Comics via their Facebook page.
On their Twitter page, this tweet was screencapped before being deleted.”What an offensive sexist bigot I must be? a straight, a gay, a Christian, a nice young lady, and Josh. #sumthinwrong http://t.co/FwdjTvcgbS” (You can see that content here as well.)
Nine hours ago he left this message on Facebook, “This is Andrew, I’m going to be addressing something that came across my plate last night that I take very seriously. I’m going to collect my thoughts and sleep on it and hopefully be able to make sense of all this mess.”
I hope he takes responsibility for his dismissive attitude toward the fans at the convention who sat to watch this panel, and that he realizes creators are a big part of the cycle.
If anyone has audio/video of this panel, would you please pass it on to me?
here’s the thing about sex, sexualization, rape culture and the phrase “sex sells”
sex does not sell. at all.
the objectification of women’s bodies is not sex. focusing on breasts or gentials or ass in order to sell a product or an idea is not the same thing as sex….
So today Angelina Jolie had double mastectomy, which is the removal of one’s breasts, to prevent Breast cancer. So instead of praising Angelina on her bravery, men on Twitter decided to ridicule her, even calling her stupid for removing her breasts. For those of you on Tumblr that are attacking Feminists about being delusional about sexism against women and misogyny here’s your fucking proof that sexism and misogyny exists.
are you fucking kidding me
Things you should know about Jolie and her mastectomy.
A. the tests and procedures took 3 months. It didn’t happen “today.”
B. her breasts were reconstructed with implants (this is normal in these kinds of procedures). she didn’t “chop off” her boobs. and she’s not going to look much different than before.
C. these procedures are very expensive and aren’t usually covered by insurance (which is a god damn shame).
D. she’s obviously not doing it for “attention.” Again, it took 3 months, and she has kept it a secret the whole time (and keeping a secret when you are Angelina Jolie isn’t that easy).
E. She has a (very) rare mutation that makes her (very) much more likely to develop breast cancer that is even worse than ‘normal’ breast cancer. She didn’t just randomly do it.
F. Preventative mastectomy is not the only way to deal with having this mutation, but when you are Angelina Jolie and are very busy and very rich, it is clearly the best choice. (The other option is basically getting screened much more often than the average person for early dectection).
G. The entire point of Jolie sharing her story is to let women know that there are options before and after you’ve been diagnosed, and that you should be diligent in taking care of yourself, no matter how scary it all seems. Which I think is a good message.
women are always hyper-watched for any sign of being “bitter” from past encounters with men. because “oh no!” if you’re bitter or wary or have trust issues when it comes to men then that’s YOUR fault and you need to pull it together because you’re nothing…
Reason 1: One Friday night I picked up my teenage son at the movies along with four of his teenage friends. The ride home was filled with laughter, profanity, burps, flatulence and a few head slaps. It took a week for the smell to dissipate.
Reason 2: The next night I picked up my…
The Problem When Sexism Just Sounds So Darn Friendly…
By Melanie Tannenbaum
Something can’t actually be sexist if it’s really, really nice, right?
I mean, if someone compliments me on my looks or my cooking, that’s not sexist. That’s awesome! I should be thrilled that I’m being noticed for something positive!
Yet there are many comments that, while seemingly complimentary, somehow still feel wrong. These comments may focus on an author’s appearance rather than the content of her writing, or mention how surprising it is that she’s a woman, being that her field is mostly filled with men. Even though these remarks can sometimes feel good to hear – and no one is denying that this type of comment can feel good, especially in the right context – they can also cause a feeling of unease, particularly when one is in the position of trying to draw attention towards her work rather than personal qualities like her gender or appearance.
In social psychology, these seemingly-positive-yet-still-somewhat-unsettling comments and behaviors have a name: Benevolent Sexism. Although it is tempting to brush this experience off as an overreaction to compliments or a misunderstanding of benign intent, benevolent sexism is both real and insidiously dangerous.
What Is Benevolent Sexism? Why is Benevolent Sexism a Problem?
What happens when there is a predominant stereotype saying that women are better stay-at-home parents than men because they are inherently more caring, maternal, and compassionate? It seems nice enough, but how does this ideology affect the woman who wants to continue to work full time after having her first child and faces judgment from her colleagues who accuse her of neglecting her child? How does it affect the man who wants to stay at home with his newborn baby, only to discover that his company doesn’t offer paternity leave because they assume that women are the better candidates to be staying at home?
At the end of the day, “good intent” is not a panacea. Benevolent sexism may very well seem like harmless flattery to many people, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t insidiously dangerous.
In February, I posted two pieces in Bed-Stuy on Tompkins and Halsey. These two pieces got the most attention of any pieces I’ve put up so far. Within a few days, someone had written his response to the work directly onto the posters. From there, a woman wrote a response to him. And it went on and, on with different hand-written comments creating this kind of interesting discussion. The pieces remained up until a week or so ago, when the phallic image was drawn. That’s when I decided to try to take them down.
The “Stop Telling Women to Smile” piece remained in tact enough for me to include it in the exhibition. I thought it was important to present in the show, so that people could view these written reactions.
This makes me sad brooklyn
This makes me sad I live adjacent to these neighborhoods.
Not smiling unless I got a good fucking reason brooklyn
Not surprising that some ego-tripping dudes continue to miss the point and therefore enforcing my disappointment in society. That just grinds my gears.