here’s the thing about sex, sexualization, rape culture and the phrase “sex sells”
sex does not sell. at all.
the objectification of women’s bodies is not sex. focusing on breasts or gentials or ass in order to sell a product or an idea is not the same thing as sex….
So today Angelina Jolie had double mastectomy, which is the removal of one’s breasts, to prevent Breast cancer. So instead of praising Angelina on her bravery, men on Twitter decided to ridicule her, even calling her stupid for removing her breasts. For those of you on Tumblr that are attacking Feminists about being delusional about sexism against women and misogyny here’s your fucking proof that sexism and misogyny exists.
are you fucking kidding me
Things you should know about Jolie and her mastectomy.
A. the tests and procedures took 3 months. It didn’t happen “today.”
B. her breasts were reconstructed with implants (this is normal in these kinds of procedures). she didn’t “chop off” her boobs. and she’s not going to look much different than before.
C. these procedures are very expensive and aren’t usually covered by insurance (which is a god damn shame).
D. she’s obviously not doing it for “attention.” Again, it took 3 months, and she has kept it a secret the whole time (and keeping a secret when you are Angelina Jolie isn’t that easy).
E. She has a (very) rare mutation that makes her (very) much more likely to develop breast cancer that is even worse than ‘normal’ breast cancer. She didn’t just randomly do it.
F. Preventative mastectomy is not the only way to deal with having this mutation, but when you are Angelina Jolie and are very busy and very rich, it is clearly the best choice. (The other option is basically getting screened much more often than the average person for early dectection).
G. The entire point of Jolie sharing her story is to let women know that there are options before and after you’ve been diagnosed, and that you should be diligent in taking care of yourself, no matter how scary it all seems. Which I think is a good message.
women are always hyper-watched for any sign of being “bitter” from past encounters with men. because “oh no!” if you’re bitter or wary or have trust issues when it comes to men then that’s YOUR fault and you need to pull it together because you’re nothing…
A quick editorial cartoon about the intersection of self-pity, entitlement, rape, territoriality, misogyny and fear of women. You see it all over the place online in the form of Men’s Rights Activists (of whom there are a few reasonable non-misogynists), Men Going Their Own Way, Pick Up Artists, and dudes touting the “Red Pill”, because The Matrix is a good movie. Look any of these up if you have the stomach for it. These are extreme examples, but watered-down forms of these ideas are everywhere.
In lurking their blogs and youtube channels for a while, I’ve noticed that beyond the standard patriarchal chauvinism there is this deep fear of women - what they will do to me, how they will reject me, how they will use me, how they are changing society in a way that does not favor me, how they are making men into something I don’t like, how they are making themselves into something I don’t like, that they won’t give me what I want, and that they won’t give me what I think is rightfully mine. This goes beyond fear of feminism- this is fear of women at its purest. And that, to quote a puppet, leads to anger and hate. It’s sad.
I am a feminist. I think there’s enough ice cream to go around, but it does mean those of us with 3 scoops might have to give one or two up. Also, The Matrix is a fun movie but probably not anything you should be basing a philosophy on.
Man I just watched this thing like six times in a row, even beyond the message it’s still pretty technically impressive, great timing, editing, use of music and sound effects, it’s a pretty well executed little clip.
Most of these things, I’ve heard before. But I wasn’t familiar with the “Red Pill” until I looked it up. I remember The Matrix all right, but what I looked up……o_o jfc, are these folks serious?
This is actually something I’ve been wanting to post about since it happened last week. Some of you are friends with me on Facebook and saw my April Fool’s prank where my friend Vigor and I pretended to be in a relationship. This is a comment left on my later post revealing the joke.
I’ve been refraining from writing about Andrew Fung of the Fung Brothers on a personal level since he and David DO do good stuff for the community through their videos and service in the San Gabriel Valley area (albeit with objectifying and sexist vieos). However, let this be a lesson to all you internet-savvy people: If your humor or entertainment act infringes on my personal life, it is fair game for public shaming.
Here in Tumblr we’ve talked about the problems within the Asian American community when it comes to dating. Specifically interracial dating. This is a prime example of a bitter Asian guy lashing out because of who I involve myself with and because I didn’t accept his advances. We see this in a lot of YouTube videos where male entertainers will complain about “the white man taking all our women” and attack women of color for “worshipping the white man”. We see this at UCLA where someone vandalized the Vietnamese Student Association’s office accusing Asian women of being sluts, whores, etc for liking white guys. I’ve personally been on the receiving end of guys talking about how Asian women “belong to them” and are their “~*territory*~”. Way to uphold heteronormative patriarchal systems, assholes.
I’ll be honest: I haven’t dated an Asian guy. But that’s related to countless factors that are in play, none of which are Andrew Fung’s business.
Sorry bro, just because I don’t like you doesn’t mean I don’t like Asian guys.
Ugh, that is definitely a major turn off. Asian guys acting like they own Asian women. How can that not be a gross attitude?
No one fucking owns me.
Trigger Warning: Rape, Physical Assault
My heart and my support go out to Adria.
Also, my righteous anger.
Here’s the gist of what happened. Adria was at PyCon, a developer conference, and noticed that two men behind her were making lewd sexual jokes. She snapped a photo, tweeted it, brought up the behavior to PyCon officials (since they did have a code of conduct for their conference), and the situation was “handled”.
What’s happened after that is a prime example of why women and people of color (and women of color, of course) are few and far between in the world of tech.
One of the men making the jokes, who was there representing his employer, got fired for his actions. Adria’s website starts getting DDoS attacks, as does her employer’s website. People are leaving her nasty comments and she’s been getting death threats and rape threats tweeted to her since yesterday.
Today, SendGrid fired Adria. And they didn’t just fire her, but they announced it on Twitter and on Facebook so people could spread the word and comment on it. The Facebook comments are particularly vile, including one where a man details a particularly gruesome threat against Adria, concluded with the words “Make her pay. Make her obey.”
All of this for speaking up about something which made her uncomfortable.
To say that this is problematic would be an understatement, and it’s particularly troubling in a week when we’ve already seen two high-profile (and altogether disturbing) responses to sexual assault cases capture media headlines. We can’t figure out what possible justification SendGrid thinks they have for terminating Adria — and don’t even get us started on how they handled it — but if you’re as curious as we are then here’s SendGrid’s contact information.
Nope. Make some noise, people. This is not. okay.
butttt… am I seeing things? Isnt Adria Richards a woman of color? So Why are women of color relegated to brackets?
BW stay getting fired for being uppity nigger bitches who don’t know our proper place.
Woman of color? She’s a black woman! Like the previous poster said, BW have a history of being fired or punished in the corporate world for being assertive…this is not acceptable.
So let me tell you:
One day, I was walking to the subway station to head to class. All of a sudden some guy grabbed my hand out of the blue and stopped me. This wasn’t down some dark alley way either, this was on Park and 33rd, a pretty populated area. He then continued on to compliment my one freckle on my hand and how “soft” my hand was. I had never met this guy before that moment, and as I tried to pull my hand away, he gripped it tighter and kept touching me and talking about how “exotic” I look and how he has “yellow fever” and “complimenting” me and he finally let go when I started to raise my voice and people around us started noticing.
And then as I hurried off to the station, I head him call me a “frigid chink bitch”.
So the fact that I live in a world where that can happen to me and someone to think that it’s okay to do that to anyone? Yeah, I have every right to be angry and scared.
some folks can’t see the page, MAJOR TRIGGER WARNING.
please report the photo/page
This past weekend, I had the opportunity to attend the Midwest Asian American Student Union Conference in Minneapolis. It was, overall, a wonderful conference where I met some very progressive people of color and activists. I was also able to help conduct a successful…
Tumblr, can you please, PLEASE go knock some sense into these guys. This is not okay at all.
Dunno about knocking sense into them but we can definitely publish their names.
Corbin Fowler: https://www.facebook.com/aquaman1102
Alex Fisher: https://www.facebook.com/Nephilim1